MnG’s aka Meet-n-Greet’s are just that, meetings. MnG’s are a gathering of ALL like minded people in a public location for the purpose of meeting and greeting new people into the lifestyle in a no pressure atmosphere. NO sexual activity takes place at a MnG’s. These events are social evenings, not play parties, where everyone is welcome: newbies; seasoned lifestyler’s; couples; single guys/gals; all ages/races/body types/sexual orientations.
Why attend a MnG?
Well, think of it like this… being able to browse the personals, but only live! Plus, with the added bonus of a non-pressure situation as it wouldn’t be if you met someone out for dinner and drinks. If you are not compatible with a couple, simply move on to another couple (or couples) that may be more suited for you. How great is that? If you have never attended a MnG, we encourage you to do so. You have nothing to lose and much to gain. Many hosts use MnG’s to validate couples. Getting known as a good single guy means going a lot and being on your best behavior.
I went once, now what?
Go to a given MnG not once but multiple times. Really! Here’s why…. Not everyone interested in the swinging lifestyle go every month to their local MnG’s, even the seasoned swingers! Lets face it we all have busy lives and can’t make every one. Going multiple times will ensure that you’ll meet many more new people (than you otherwise would have going only once).
So, what exactly goes on at a MnG?
Food, drink, music, dancing, handshakes, hugs and a lot of talking! Hoping for more? It wouldn’t be called MnG then! No sex goes on in the public locations, it’s un-cool and foolhardy. Almost all MnG’s are all held in public locations like a pub, bar, lounge, etc.
Who goes, single ladies, ages, etc.
The largest group is newbies. Many people keep going to them even as it’s a great way to socialize even more often with old friends beyond the swingers parties. Quite a few swingers enjoy the social aspect of MnG’s without the distraction of sex. MnG’s are primarily a couples event but most are open to single guys and single gals. Most accept all ages/races/body types/sexual orientations. What’s a typical MnG age range? 30’s to 50’s most times with some 20’s and 60’s. Expect all sizes and shapes like you see in the supermarket!
What Should I Wear?
Remember neatness above anything else. Nothing else worse than seeing someone in this type of environment slovenly attired. Dress as if you were going out restaurant and later to a nightclub. If you wish to later change into something more comfortable this is acceptable also.
How Many Couples Come to the Parties?
Our target number of couples is 20… with general a few single females attending as well. Of course that may vary either way from MnG to MnG. We feel this is a great number in that the couples there get to know one another fairly well and one is not overwhelmed about such a large group. Great for intimacy and variety. But mega-parties such as Halloween & New Year’s Eve will garner a much larger crowd.
Am I expected to ‘participate’?
The only expectation we have for you at MnGs is to have a great time. Its a completely no pressure environment. Choosing to ‘participate’ can range from socializing with other couples, dancing, participating in our informal group discussion chat. You decide your own comfort level.
We’re only ‘curious’ about the lifestyle, are we still welcomed?
We think that a MnG is the best way to be introduced into the lifestyle. Its a completely no pressure atmosphere. It gives you a chance to chat and meet other couples in the lifestyle in a comfortable setting. The problem with meetings couples individually is that many couples feel pressured into doing ‘something’ and if there is no compatibility it makes for a very uncomfortable atmosphere. The best thing about attending a MnG is just being able to meet so many different people into the lifestyle. About 20-35% (sometimes more) of the couples that attend are new to the lifestyle or consider themselves new.
What is a MnG ‘really’ like?
Whatever your preconceived notion is about a MnG it is probably wrong. People are always amazed with how ‘normal’, ‘civilized’ and fun MnGs are. If you want a more reflective picture of what a MnG is like… picture a great house party, with some of your best friends, with a healthy dose of sexiness & naughtiness thrown in for good measure.
What Happens If I Run Into Someone That I Know?
Remember, people are all there for the same reason. So if by chance, you run into someone you know, it could actually be a good thing. You may form a friendship with this person or if they are already a friend, an even stronger bond. Some people have met into co-workers, old friends, classmates, etc and almost always the experience is positive!
We Are New and Not Sure if We Are Ready for a MnG!
We hear that a lot from new couples. Often couples will have a pre-conceived notion of what your experience will be like. We can tell you that MnGs are a great way to start into the lifestyle. Whatever you think you’re experience will be, generally it will be inaccurate. We put a great deal of emphasis on couple interaction and just’ fun’ in generally. People often tell us that they had no idea just how much FUN that they would have at our events. And when I say fun, I’m talking about with your clothes on. Also, why beat around the bush with emailing couples online? That is a long drawn out process. And when (and if) you finally go out on a date with a couple, what happens if you are not compatible? That can create for a very awkward and uncomfortable situation. At a MnG you will have the opportunity to meet MANY terrific couples (that are active in the lifestyle) in person. Think of a it as a live swingers personals! Or a swingers 8 minute dating event. If you don’t hit it off with one couple, the next couple is right there. With so many great couples in attendance, surely you will be able to make a wonderful connection in the lifestyle.
Can Swinging Save Our Marriage?
No. If your relationship is in trouble then swinging is definitely not the solution to your problems. In fact, it would probably make it worse. Swinging is a lifestyle where you need to have complete trust in your partner. Strong relationships seem to get even stronger while in the lifestyle but those that are shaky tend to get worse.
Advice #1 – Body Language
If you are interested in finding out if someone is interested, take a quick course in Body Language 101. We have found that looking for little clues such a nuances in someone’s mannerisms, speech and body language are a great tool in trying to decide if someone (or someones) is interested. There are plenty of sites online to educate one’s self on body language.
Advice #2 – Dancing
If you are new to the swing scene, switching partners while dancing is a great way to see if the lifestyle is for you. Most people would not object if you ask to switch partners on the dance floor. See if watching your partner dance with someone else is something that arouses you or is something that makes you feel uneasy. If it’s the latter, then this lifestyle may not be for you. If it’s the former… welcome to the club!
Dancing can practically be like having sex while clothed and standing up. It’s great foreplay to dance with someone that you might be interested in taking that next step with.
So never shy away from the dance floor! Some of our best experiences have started/happened while wearing our boogie shoes.
Advice #3 – Set Boundaries
Where swinging usually goes wrong with newbies is when someone crosses an imaginary line that their partner had in their head. Always discuss what your boundaries will be before going into a lifestyles event. Let your parnter know what you will and will not feel comfortable with. Communication is always important in any relationship and the swinging lifestyle is no different.
We Want to Go Out On A Date with Other MnG members
If you are looking to network with other couples in the lifestyle, then ask them for their contact information, adn take things from there.
Will I Get Laid?
The MnG group is not focused on sex. We bring together a group of couples & single females that are in the lifestyle together. Much like if you met in another nightclub, the night is what YOU make of it. There is never a planned group sex session ever. What you do in the private behind closed doors is your own business.
